B and J, grew up as the youngest of six children in a lower middle-class family. When the brothers were in elementary school, their parents were in a near – death car accident from which their mother managed to escape from with just few broken bones, but their father lost the use of his right hand. The stress and frustration from his physical therapy caused him to develop a harsh temper. And life certainly wasn’t perfect. There were often difficult things happening around the house. But their mom, still believed life was good. So, every night she would ask her six children to tell her something good that happened that day. As simple as mom’s words were, they changed the energy in the room. Before even they knew it, they were riffling on the best, funniest, or most bizarre part of their day. This exercise prevented them from developing a victim’s mentality of ‘Oh, you wouldn’t believe this horrible thing that happened to me today’. Instead of griping about a teacher or homework assignment, they would be laughing about a silly haircut a classmate got that day, or a neat project they worked on school. That optimism was something that keep this family always had, even when we had little less. Growing up with a mother like theirs – one who sang in the kitchen, told animated stories, and acted out children’s book for her kids, no matter what bad situation they were going through – taught them an important lesson : Being happy isn’t dependent on your circumstances. Their mother’s positive outlook on life inspired their biggest success. The mission of this is to spread the power of optimism, with that tag line, ‘ Life is not perfect. Life is not easy. Life is good’. The brothers now ask their employees the same thing when they all come together – ‘Tell me something good’ – and the results have been positive. It leads to ideas, which lead to progress, instead of dwelling on challenges.
“What most of us call ‘ romantic love ‘ is actually repressed sexuality.”
Man has three layers: the body, mind and the soul. So whatsoever you do, you can do in three ways. Either it can be just from the body, or it can be from mind, or it can be from the soul. Whatsoever you do, any act of yours, can have three qualities. Sex is love through body; romantic love is sex through mind; compassion is through the soul. But the energy is the same. Moving in a deeper way, its quality changes but the energy is the same.
If you live your love life only through the body, you live a very poor love life because you live very superficially. Sex, just of the body, is not even sex – it becomes sexuality. It becomes pornographic; it becomes a little obscene; it becomes a little brutal, ugly because it has no depth in it. Then it is just a physical release of the energy. Maybe it helps you to become a little less tense, but just to become a little more relaxed you are losing tremendously valuable energy.
If it can become love, you will not be losing it. In the same act you will be gaining also. On the physical level, there is only loss – sex is simply a loss of energy. Sex is safety valve in the body: when the energy is too much and you don’t know what to do with it, you throw it out. You feel relaxed because you are emptied of energy. A sort of rest comes because the restless energy is thrown out, but you are poorer than before; you are emptier than before.
So very soon, sex becomes meaningless. And a person who has known only sex of the body and has not known the deeper dimension of love becomes mechanical. His sex is just a repetition of the same act again and again. It is miserable. It simply gives you a mechanical release. You can become addicted to it: you don’t enjoy it then, but you will miss it. If you don’t go into it you will miss it. If you don’t go into it you will feel restless, if you go into it there is nothing in it.
At the most, people know something about what they call romantic love – that too is not love; that is repressed sex. When you don’t have the possiblity of making a sexual contact that repressed energy becomes romance. Then that repressed energy starts becoming cerebral, it starts moving into the head. When sex moves from the genital organs toward the head, it becomes romance. Romantic love is not really love, it is pseudo; it is a false coin. It is again the same sex but the opportunity was not there.
In the past ages, people lived very much in romantic love because sex was not so easy. It was very difficult; society created so many obstacles. Sex was so difficult that people had to repress it. That repressed energy would start moving into their heads, would become poetry, painting and romance, and they would have dreams, beautiful dreams. Now that has disappeared, particularly in the west. In the east it is still there. In the west it has disappeared because sex has become available. So much of it is available, more than you need, and that has created a problem. Romantic love has disappeared. Now, no romantic poetry is being written in the west.
Love is Healthy
Romantic love is the other side of physical sex, the repressed side. It is not love. Both are ill. What you call sex, sexuality and romantic love, both are ill states of affairs. When body and mind meet, there is love. Love is healthy. In sexuality only body is there, in romantic love only head is there. Both are partial.
In love, body and mind meet, you become a unity, more of unity. You love the person and sex comes just as a shadow to it. It is not vice versa. You love the person so much, your energies meet with the person so deeply, you feel so good by other’s presence; the other’s presence is so fulfilling that it completes you. Love comes as a shadow to it.
Sex it not the centre, love is the centre. Sex becomes the periphery. Yes, sometimes you would like to meet on the physical plane also, but there is no hankering for it. It is not an obsession, it is just sharing of energy. The basic thing is deep. The periphery is good. With the centre, the periphery is good; without the centre it becomes sexuality. Without the periphery, if it is only in the centre it becomes romantic love. When the periphery and the centre both are together, there is a togetherness of body and mind. It is not only that you desire the other’s body, but you desire other person’s being, then there is love. Love is healthy.
1. Man has three layers: the body, mind and soul. So whatsoever you do, you can do it in three ways.
2. It you live your love life only through the body, you lead a poor love life because you live superficially.
3. In love, body and mind meet. The other’s presence is so fulfilling that it completes you.
Everything has energy : fear,anger, jealousy and hate. You are unaware of the fact that all these things are wasting your life. Your energy is leaking from so many holes. This way you are going bankrupt, sooner or later. And another significant point to remember : if you witness anything – fear, anger , hate – they will disappear, leaving a tremendous amount of energy in you which you can use for creativity. You will have to use it. When the leaking holes disappear, you will be overflowing with energy. But if you witness your love, compassion, kindness and humbleness, they will not disappear. They also have tremendous energy, but the more you witness them, the more they will become strong in you; they will over-power you, overwhelm you.
So this is the criterion to decide what is right and what is wrong. If by witnessing, something disappear, leaving all energy to you, it was wrong….I give you whole secret of spiritual life : witness. If the thing disappears and leaves a great amount of energy behind, it was wrong. If by witnessing, the phenomenon becomes even bigger, love becomes more Himalayan, it means this is the good you have been searching for.
If you become more sensitive to beauty, to poetry, that means your love has blossomed. And all the energy that has been left by fear, anger and hate, will be taken over by your love, sensitivity, compassion, and creativity. This is the whole alchemy of changing base metals into gold.
Alchemists had small labs in which there were many tubes and bottles, many – coloured things, and stoves. It gave the appearance that they were doing something material, that they were scientists, that they were not mystics – because the mystic was dangerous to organised religion. These people were just trying to change base metals into gold. That was perfectly good…. But this was else was going on inside. Being scientists was just the superficial mask. Not a single iota of base metal was changed into gold in thousands of years…. And who is not interested in changing base metal into gold ? Everybody was interested. Alchemists were respected for their facade.
What they were actually doing was of a different dimension. They were trying to change fear, anger and hatred into love, compassion, creativity, and sensitivity. They were trying to bring a transformation in the soul of man. So this is the basic ‘alchemy : you watch, witness without any judgement. That which is wrong will disappear, leaving a great energy behind. And that which is good will become bigger and will start absorbing the energies that have been left by wrong things.
When everything that is ugly in you has left, only a great fragrance of love, light, and laughter remains behind.
First and the foremost thing that I wanna do is to apologize for not being very active for a long period of time or rather I would say a whole year. Extreme apologize for being such a lazy ass. So, the last year have taught me a lot of great things. I have been introduced to something very magnificeint and beautiful. And I am extremely thankful to life for that.
So I was reading a very beautiful text called The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra. The book touched my heart and soul, and I would like to share certain excerpt from the text. We can always discuss things and his philosophy. The book is available online and I, also own my copy of case anyone willing to read can always borrow. I am always open for chats and discussion.
It is very important to take care of our spirit. In the run for materialistic possession, we tend to neglect our spiritual well-being. The purpose of this article is entire focused on helping and healing our spiritual health. In a world where so many things require our attention, the larger purpose of our lives can be forgotten. This article captures the essence of Chopra’s wisdom, and shares a wealth of information in very precise terms.
Success in life can be defined as the continued expansion of happiness and the progressive realization of worthy goals. There are many aspects to success, material wealth is only one of them. Moreover, success is a journey not a destination. Materialistic pleasures, are endured in lifee to make this journey more enjoyable, but true success includes good health, energy and enthusiasm for life, fulfilling relationships, creative freed, and a sense of well-being.
With the knowledge of these laws, we align with nature’s intelligence, and our dreams ad desires are easily fulfilled. When we understand these law and apply them, anything can be created.
1. The Law of Pure Potential
Pure potentiality is pure conciousness; it is the field of all possibilities and infinite creativity.
Take time each day to be silent, to connect with your spirit, to just Be. Practice non judgement. Begin each day with the statement “Today, I shall judge nothing that occurs,” and throught out the day remind yourself of that statement each time you catch yourself judging. Commune with nature. Silently observe the intelligence within everything. Watch a sunset, listen to the sound of the ocean, or simply smell the scent of a flower.
2. The Law of Giving and Receiving
Give a gift to everyone you encounter, be it a compliment, a flower, or a prayer. This will begin the process of circulating joy and affluence in your life and in the lives of others. Gratefully receive every gift that life offers you. Be open to receiving, whether it be a material gift from others, a compliment, or prayer. Silently wish everyone you encounter happiness, joy, and laughter. By giving and receiving the gifts of caring, affection, appreciation, and love, you will keep wealth circulating in your life.
3. The Law of Karma Or Cause and Effect
Witness the choices you make in every moment. The best way to prepare for any moment in the future is to be fully conscious in the present. Whenever you make a choice, ask yourself two questions : “What are the consequences of this choice ?” and “Will this choice bring happiness to me and to those who are affected by this choice?” Ask your heart for guidance, and be guided by its message of comfort or discomfort. If the choice feels comfortable, go ahead with that choice. If the choice feels uncomfortable, then don’t make that choice.
4. The Law of Least Effort
Accept people, circumstances, and events as they are this moment. When confronted with any challenge, remind yourself, “This moment is as it should be,” because the entire universe is as it should be. Take responsibility for your situation without blaming anything or anyone, including yourself. Every problem is an opportunity to take this moment and transform it into a greater benefit. Relinquish the need to defend your point of view. In defenselessness, you remain open to all points of view, not rigidly attached to one of them.
5. The Law of Intention and Desire
Our intention and desires, when released in the field of pure potentiality, have infinite organizing power. Just by introducing an intention in the fertile ground of pure potentiality, we activate this field, and put its infinite organizing power to work for us. This isn’t mystical notion. Energy and information exist everywhere in nature, at the level of pure consciousness, there is nothing other than energy and information. We can consciously change the energy ad information of our own body, and influence the energy and information of our extended body – our environment – and cause things to manifest in it.
This change is brought about by two qualities inherent in consciousness : attention and intention. Attention energizes, and intention transforms. Whatever we put our attention on grows stronger in our life; whatever we take our attention away from withers and disappears. Intention triggers the transformation of energy and information, and organizes its own fulfillment. The quality of intention on object of attention orchestrates an infinity of details to bring about the intended outcome. Intention is the real power behind desire because it is desire without attachment to make outcome.
Present – moment awareness is powerful, because the future is created by our actions in present. We cannot take action in the past or in the future. Past and future are born in imagination. Only the present, which is awareness, is real and eternal.
Remain established in the awareness of your true Self.
6. The Law of Detachment
Practice detached involvement. Stay alert to the opportunity within every problem by letting go of your idea of how things should be. Accept uncertainty as an essential part of your experience. In your willingness to accept uncertainty, solutions will spontaneously appear. Remain open to all possibilities and enjoy every moment in the journey of your life – all the fun, mystery, and magic in the field of pure potentiality.
7. The Law of Dharma
It implies our unique destiny, our place in the cosmic plan. The seventh spiritual law of success brings the preceding six laws to fruitation, for when we master the Law of Dhrama, the whole universe in on our side. Every law and power of nature comes to our aid and supports us spontaneously. Self – exploration isn’t a task we accomplish and then abandon. Every person is a never – ending project of the universe.
Nurture the divinity within you, the spirit animating your body and mind, by carrying the consciousness of timeless Being in the midst if time – bound experience. Make a list of your unique talents. Then list all the things that you love to do while expressing these talents. Ask yourself daily, “How can I help?” and “How can I serve?” The answers to these questions will help you to serve your fellow human beings with love.
When we put our attention on these laws and practice the steps outlined the above mentioned book, we can manifest anything we want – all the affluence and success that we desire. Life becomes more joyful and abundant in every way, for these laws are also the spiritual laws of life that make living worthwhile.
Everything in life is an expression of the miraculous unfolding of spirit. In every moment, spirit just unfolds spontaneously, and the universe evolves into higher levels of creativity, awareness, and divinity.
May this article help you to see yourself with greater clarity. May its wisdom help you to express all the power of your spirit, and to fulfill your most cherished dreams.
What is true love ? People may have different definitions of it, but many of us must agree that true love is altruistic and unconditional; it means loving others without expecting something in return from them. However, we find it difficult as we want a return for everything we give, including love. We begin to expect things. From that expectation comes need, even jealousy, and also attachment – the notion that we deserve to get back something because of the love that we give to others – and then unhappiness is experienced when our expectations are not met.
If we expect something in return, is it really love ? Certainly not! The first and foremost aspect of true love is the pure intention and capacity to offer joy and happiness without any condition. To develop that capacity, we have to look at Mother Nature.
Nature expresses itself through unconditional love. It gives abundantly, altruistically and unconditionally, and also most indiscriminately. We can observe examples of such expression in trees that provide oxygen, shade and shelter to all impartially, even to those who cut its branches or cut it down completely, and in the sun that nourishes the earth every day, rising and setting unfailingly.
What will happen if all of nature’s elements start asking for a return for their services ? What will occur if we had and have to pay taxes to get sunlight or the air to breathe ? Life would not have been possible on earth, because, nature’s way of working is to give as it has everything in abundance. It never ask for a return. The sun gives light to everybody; trees give shade to all, and water quenches thirst of all. This happens because they follow and act according to their real nature. Similarly, the real and essential nature of human being is love, peace and bliss. When we realise our real and essential nature, we become ‘ love personified ‘ and we won’t have to keep conditions for giving our love to others. But, when we forget the essence of our true and original spiritual nature, we indulge in competition and one-upmanship in life.
The only way to be free again is to realise the Self and start being Selfless. The more we give selflessly, the happier we will feel.
Faith means trusting the universe with your whole heart. When you study a language, you trust the teacher and do exactly as s/he says without question. By trusting him/her you become a scholar, a master one day. Similarly, when doctor tells you that you are sick and prescribes medication, you follow his/her instructions, take the required dosage and necessary precautions. In the same way, a spiritual teacher is like a doctor for the material afflictions of maya.
Let’s say you go to your bank to deposit Rs 50,000 to the teller by passing it through a small window. If you tell him that you need receipt before you hand him the money, he will tell you to give him the money first. He is afraid that you may walk out with the receipt without making the deposit and you are afraid that he may deny that you gave him the money. If you keep doing this no work will ever get done. So you hand over your money with full faith.
Similarly, when we drink milk, are we aware of all the elements of it. What are components of milk ? What benefits they cause to our body and harmful affect it has on our body ? Yet, as a child we were asked to drink it twice a day without complaints. Despite, the despise we all had for it taste we were suppose to drink daily, twice. And even now as grown up we are still advised to have milk, at least once a day. Obviously, because grown – up don’t follow the rules. Faith is what like milk. You just take it up, all in and wait for the benefit to come out. The strong bones and good health, does show up sooner or later.
Without faith you cannot get an education, treatment from a doctor or get any office work done. You have faith in the world and as a result you attain success. In spiritual area, however, you think, speak and do the opposite. You say, “First give me a degree, then I will study ?” Never. So why do you do this in relation to God or Universe or anything else you believe in. Why do you want God’s treasure before you cultivate faith in Him ?
I would like to pass on to you 10 practical suggestion :
1. Believe in the Higher Power watching you and giving you strength. ( Not God necessarily)
2. Always be relaxed in body and mind.
3. Do not neglect your daily appoiment with inner self or God.
4. Always see the bright side of things.
5. Count your blessings.
6. Keep yourself busy doing something creative.
7. Smile,smile,smile all tye while.
8. Don’t hold on to grudges.
9. Practise the technique of Tonglen – breathing in all negativity and breathing out serenity, calm, peace and tranquillity.
10. Help others.
Black, I have a black lacy bra and I have a black lacy dress. And I have a black heart and a black soul. They say it’s dark and that I am a horrible person. I am not someone you should be with. Because it’s all dark like looking into oblivion.
Yet, it’s beautiful for me and not for them.
Now, the fact is why black is not the white ? Why can’t black be innocent and pure ? Just because it’s dark and gloomy does it mean that it’s impure ? It cannot be white, but who wants to be the white ? Why is white always the pure one ? Because it appears that way, but then black can be pure too. Maybe black is pure than the white ? I would say what is pure ? Why comparing it to pure ?
It’s always about a theory that keeps on going and going.
I think it’s better to have someone. Even if it hurts. Even if it’s the most painful thing you have to do. Even if it’s the most painful thing you’ve ever had to do. I think it’s better to have someone.
At the end of the day. It’s the white light you have to imagine. Everything is screwed up, but this clichéd typically clichéd, white light is same. Just close your eyes and imagine this light. It’s not about darkness or sadness or happiness or wonders. It’s just about positivity. The hope, hope that things will be better. Faith, faith that whatever happened has a reason behind it. And trust, trust and faith are parellel. They co-exist with each other. They work together, like directly proportional things. So yes. It’s the positivity. Just that. Too stay positive. To see good in everything. Life sucks. People lie. People are worst, not even deserving to be called as humans, literally we have polluted that term. Yet there is always a good. Just look for that good. And these things do work. If you believe, they will. Like I said faith and trust. But not on people, but your ownself, and the fact that everything that happens have it’s own reasons. People are fake and they remain fake. But, your own positivity will make you strong and work it out. Just you.
What is good human being ? Is there any fixed defination for this? No. I don’t believe in that. No one is good. Human beings are now mean and practical only. And everyone is fake. But you remain true to that one person you call as ‘my person’. Someone ever wise, according to me, told me once that if you want to understand someone consider them as ‘HUMANS’ mere simple Humans. Not something I was’nt aware of. I knew that. But what he told me was to not to tag them with as ‘my person’ ‘bestfriend’ ‘close friend’ ‘friend’ ‘acquaintance’. No. Just see them as simple humans. And yes, he gave a new insight into this prevailing thought of mine. And I thank him alot for this. But I ended up disagreeing with him at a point. Because exactly we are humans we need people to bond. We bond, we get attached. And then we expect. This normal human nature. You cannot change that. Working on your ownself will also not help. I have been there. I have done this and I know how it works. And I assume everyone at a point knows this. And you do end up with that one ‘MY PERSON’ which according to you is completely yours. You love them like your now part, your ownself. And you can never stop loving them. You need that one person, you need to give tag to that one person, you know despite working on yourself for years, you end up giving this one tag. And trust me it’s worth it. And to this one person you confined in all your sins. All your problems, all your shit, all your crap. And again this is this one person you remain true to. Because you love them from core, and if you can love any such one person in your life, who ever it is friend,lover or now a stranger. You have achieved you salvation. ‘Fake’ is for everyone, no one will ever show you your true face. Not everyone can like all the human beings. People are different with different thinking, different perspective. And you cannot like them all. But you can respect them all. And accept it that,
‘I don’t like you respective view.’
‘I don’t like this person’
on face and yet be there to help that person out, standing with them in tough, hard times is what I feel is a hallmark of a good human being. Obviously, you cannot know that the person you dont like is in trouble,because your are certainly not a magician and s/he wont come up to you, but you can always see and observe and you can keep bonds clear by telling them, with utmost honest that, ‘I don’t like this.’ ‘And that doesn’t make you a bad human or uneligible for my friendship, but this is it.’ ‘And I can’t fake it like rest of the world. But you will always find me.’ And that is how you don’t play with people’s emotions. That is how you protect each other. Neither they get attached nor you have to pretend and live with a guilt that I am not honest. Atleast this what I believe in and this is what I am taught, value human emotions. Not play with them.
And how they end up defining bonds ? By what we did for you ? Like seriously what you did ? Everyone make sacrifices for each other. That’s how relationship works. You don’t count on your sacrifices, you do them from the bottom your heart. Because you feel the joy of giving ( the basic of any relationship) when you feel your person is happy. It’s not about how many times you have checked on the other person. It’s not about that you made sure that your person has eaten something or not, or you forcing them to eat. It’s not about being possessive and proctecting them from danger. It’s not about wheather you like there certain habits or not. No.No. That is what a bodyguard or maybe a person who provides nursing, a care taker, or something like that does. What a true person stands for is that they are always there for you. That they never let you fall apart. They are always there to hold you even in the bad times. You know, they happily accept you bad behaviour, you can tell them about it without them thinking that you are a bad person,because they know that what is inside you is purer and more beautiful. Because they have seen a side that they believe is more stronger and can never die. They stand by you to let you know that, Yes no matter what we accept each other. We all have flaws but what love,affection, care and respect demands is this. ‘I care about you’ ‘I love you’ You can say all this 25 times a day, but when you can’t accept your person, these are just words. Feeding them with food or making sure that they end up doing there work is not how you show I care. That is natural, that comes with understanding. But what care actually stands for is accepting and giving. And everytime you cannot be accurate and correct. You can be wrong too. And accepting that I am wrong, doesn’t make us weak, but strong. That yes, we know our flaw and we are working on it. And you are lucky if you find this one person, who won’t judge you. Yet you can confined in him/her all of yourself. And if you end being true to even this one person in your life, you have achieved it. Life is not always about money,career or cars,mansions or 20,000 people. Life is all about small small happy things and moments. And few bunch of people, you can call as your own. Not everyone deserves to know all of you. Only such people does.